One would think a word as this would bring up images of people getting along or at the very least not hassling each other. Isn’t that the point of such an idea? That we are all equal and can live together despite our differences?
I would love to say this is the way the world has been nurturing for decades now. America has always been struggling and pushing towards its true ideals. Liberty and justice for all. Though this is something that has been fought hard to even get where it has gotten. Sadly (as often happens) those that have fought the hardest have become part of the problem.
I could go in to the problems with political correctness but I wont. Just as the idea of social justice warriors could be brought up. What I wish to point out is far beyond any such ideals or labels.
The right to individualism.
Simple words that our world has completely forgotten about. I’ve seen it a few times myself over the last few weeks. We are all individuals. No matter how many similarities we share this will never change. I will never be like any one else just as no one will ever be like me. For some reason though our world has decided it is ok to dictate how we should act around one another.Here is an example.
I was having an argument with a friend a few weeks ago on the topic of porn. While at a swap meet a friend found a lesbian porn dvd and held it up giggling. I just like her and another friend laughed. But there is always some one who finds such things wrong and rude. I was glad to see she held off making to much of a scene. Needless to say we had a talk after everyone went their own ways.
Thus began a conversation about how she was insulted and felt it is rude for anyone to pick something like that up and flash it about. To her I kindly responded I understand how you feel but this is how we have always been. It is quite humorous to us to know a swap meet is selling porn. You dont expect to find it there at all. Her response was a simple we need to be more respectful about how she feels.We were going against how she believes and how she wishes to live.
This is the point I let out a heavy sigh. This statement is very poisonous to me. It can be ok, but it is taken to far. Basically it tells the listener when I am around you must change who you are to fit how I live. I am not ok with this idea. I have spent to long of my life listening and agreeing with other people in regards to even how I should be.
As cold as this answer is I could only think if you do not like who we are then maybe we aren’t the best of company for you. We have every right to act and be who we are. Sure we are subject to being judged by others but that is how it works. If others do not like who we are then they look for people who are like them.
What makes her statement even more dangerous is the common issue when these types of things are brought up. It’s always about the individual. Again she has every right to be offended and feel how she does, but that doesnt mean the world has to cater to anyone. I have been with friends who have discussed many things i found uncomfortable and worse. I sit quietly and wait for a new topic to begin, or I can help start the new topic.
Now the friend who was uncomfortable felt it would be best if she informed everyone involved how things should be when she is around. When she said this all I could think was then don’t be around. Don’t change us to fit your world. I would never tell some one to not do something in front of me or to change who they are around me. To do so goes against our basic rights as living beings. We are individuals.
This girl and I are still ok friends. I wouldn’t break off the friendship over something like that. But just as she has her choices to make so do I. I will have to think a lot about having her along to do things in the future.
So all this brought me to the question why do we constantly try to tell everyone how to change for the better? It is none of our rights. I just don’t understand this overwhelming need for some to make the world work their way only. It is not a way of life I believe in. In this world of fear and anger we should be trying to build bridges to not only equality but individualism. You really cant have one without the other.
What does everyone think? Is it truly possible to know when in public we will be exposed to things we do not wish to, or does it make more sense to try and censor?