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A voice in North Carolina

With one of the worst pieces of legislation passed in North Carolina many people have spoken out against its homophobic ramifications. Sure IBM and a few other companies have spoken out against the new law, but it is a trans man that makes me smile the most. He is doing something I think shines a perfect light on the situation that the officials in North Carolina don’t understand.

I wont show his face but i will mention that he has my support and my hopes are with him. With the new law in place, it is now unlawful to use the restroom that doesn’t correspond to your birth certificate. Charlie has posted online that he will adhere to the law as he doesn’t with to violate it. What this does mean is since he was born a woman he is now going to be using the women’s restroom.

What you cant see here is the fact Charlie has undergone hormone treatment for some time. Any idea that he passed as a woman is long gone. Even if he could I am pretty sure the tailored beard would not help anything. So thanks to a new law that was designed to “keep predators out of the bathrooms and make these areas secure” now enforces those who pass as their real gender use the restroom that doesn’t match them.

Charlie will be in the restroom just like any of us. Little girls will see him in there and be lost as to why he is there. what is amazing is what charlie has decided to do in case he is confronted by a woman. He has printed out a card that explains the situation and informs the person with the problem that if they have a problem with it to combat such a hateful law. He has even said he will not give argument to those who confront him. Just a simple handing of the card and off he will go.

This move is not only brilliant, but completely brave and in the face of those who didn’t understand what they were actually doing. If they wanted to protect from sexual predators then they could have found more appropriate ways of doing so. As it stands all they do is bully a group of people who have done nothing but try to live.

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I love what Charlie is doing so much I have begun wondering what I would do if the same type of law would attempt to be passed where I am. I was told before by my therapist that I am a great speaker and would greatly help. That however is not me. I can speak just fine but what does this do for my stealth ability? Is that something worth giving up?

My answer is actually a resounding yes. What better way to prove a point that by pointing out the fact no one has had issues with me and the only reason I would be out is to show that I was thrown in to a rule that shouldn’t even apply to me. I smile as I think of what Charlie is doing. Part of me cant help but smile when i remember when I first started passing. I didn’t realize it at first but it had become apparent pretty fast.

I was in the men’s bathroom at work washing up after a long 8 hours. As I washed my hands a customer opened the door to come in. I could see him stop in the mirror as he saw me. He leaned back and looked at the symbol on the door. He was clearly shocked by my being there. He even waited for me to leave before coming in.

It was actually that day I had to rethink the bathroom situation. So the question stands could I go back in to the men’s restroom. If this is what it came down to where I am then I would say yes. And I would document the whole thing. I even have more ideas. Hopefully I wont need them, but if I do then I can guarantee they will happen. Way to go Charlie. You are an inspiration to me and probably thousands of trans people across the country. It should be interesting to see what happens.

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Bathroom Use

I was going to wait till after the Easter break to bring up this particular issue, but it seems another state has used the same tired fear speeches to successfully create issues for their transgender people to not be allowed our basic human right.

North Carolina passed a bill in an emergency session that made it’s way to the governor just as quickly to be signed. He did so. The bill was the standard trans people must use the restroom of their gender marked on their birth certificate. In some tweets posted yesterday Governor Pat McCrory stated

“I signed bipartisan legislation to stop the breech of basic privacy and etiquette,ensure privacy in bathrooms and locker rooms.”

It was followed immediately by another tweet.

“Ordinance defied common sense, allowing men to use women’s bathroom/locker room for instance. That’s why I signed bipartisan bill to stop it.”

There are many scary things about this whole situation. The fact that the session was called quickly and under the radar of most of its people. The speed in which it made its way to the Governor to sign. Even what he kept calling the bill. He referred to it in both tweets as the bipartisan bill. Doesn’t that just scream we didn’t want you know know what we were doing? It is so vague.

House Bill 2, the Public Facilities Privacy & Security Act is what it is really called. It was designed to stop local governments from deciding if it is okay for transgender people to use the bathroom/ locker rooms of their true genders. In the end the state government took the rights of not only its people but the localized government and said this is how it will be.

I have seen more of these bills come and go over the last few years. They are on the rise and it doesn’t look like they will be slowing down any time soon. The same tired fears are used to scare people in to thinking they are in danger. After all you should never waste a good fear. The fear in question is that it will give sex offenders the ability to go in what is protected space to get after their targets.

I have said this every time one of these happens. This has nothing to do with transgender people. This is a straight issue involving very messed up people. Yet their only answer is to lump transgender people (this goes for both trans men and women) in to the category of sex offenders.

If you were to ask and trans person they would agree that such acts of violation are horrendous and have no place in a civilized culture. We are as susceptible to such crimes as any other person. As some one who has suffered from sexual assault and abuse I often scream the loudest when these events are reported. But to disgrace an entire community in the name of “protecting”other people is insane. We should be protecting everyone. So this bills logic is flawed. By the way. Where was my protection?

You want to fix the assault problem. That is fantastic. I stand behind trying to find ways to stop assaults whole heartedly. We need more harsh punishments for the committers. Punishing a group that has nothing to do with the problem is honestly just as vile as the offences they are trying to protect against. There are plenty of trans men and women out there who pass. We walk among the regular world all the time. You want some one who passes to be in the wrong rest room and feel the same fear that you are scared others will feel?

As I said earlier this bill is nothing new. The fact they pushed it through so fast and so head strong is. We have seen anti LGBT bills over the last few years cause major repercussions for their states. Indiana stands as a shining example that the modern world is tired of religious influence on bills. Religion does not dictate out country. We live in a country of religious freedom. Land of the free and the home of the brave. That is a wonderful thing and should be respected. But when we all have to go out in public and be civil. Neither side should be able to dictate to the other how to “properly” live.

I could go on and on with this subject. What it boils down to for me is two things. One. Strict punishments and repercussions for those who commit such deplorable acts. I personally am for the most severe punishments possible for those who violate the rights of other.

Two, own up to what you are really pushing. Bills designed to segregate and discriminate against groups of people you clearly know nothing about. I think I would be less angry if these people would just say I am anti LGBT and this is my concern. If some one wishes to dislike another then that is their prerogative. It should be known so others can judge you for who you are just as you secretly judge those you lie to.